Real or imagined authority and control isn’t love. That controlling power and abuse is an insecure person’s way of trying not to be abandoned. So instead, they preemptively abandon you, probably when you need them the most. That way they feel that they have a psychological and emotional hold on you.
They feel safe and comfortable thinking that you can’t or won’t abandon them. What they don’t realize and they are too self-absorbed to realize that being abandoned is exactly what they will get—they will eventually be abandoned by the very person they are victimizing.
The abandonment that results is not always physical abandonment, as abused co-dependent people often tolerate being abused for years. But they do eventually abandon their abusers mentally and emotionally, closing their hearts and souls to them, and killing any love at all they may have once felt for the abuser.
So, isn’t that leaving? Yes it certainly is.
Abuse is abuse. And abuse is NEVER ok.