“He uses it to punish me on a regular basis”
“I’ve had times where my husband used this tactic on me so bad, that I ended up wishing that he would just hit me and get it over with-why? Because at least then I would know I existed, and that I wasn’t a ghost or invisible.”
“I’ve learned to love the silent treatment. For years, it devastated me and I felt that it was the worst of the abuse…but it’s not…at least not for me. …and yes, I felt that it was a punishment. It made me feel not important, subhuman…like I didn’t even exist.”
“That’s all it took & he wouldn’t speak for days sometimes. Then he would start talking like nothing was ever wrong. Ignore your problems & keep up a front. I couldn’t live like that anymore.”
“There was no rhyme or reason, it could happen at any time, go on for days and usually erupted into an outburst of rage. Trying to figure it out, was mind-boggling and yes, punishment!”
Emotional Immaturity At It’s Finest
The reality is (in most cases) that the more someone ignores you the more you actually want to resolve the problem. It’s almost an involuntary need on the part of the person being ignored. And that’s the whole point to the ignorer.
They person doing the ignoring thinks it puts them in control AND it gets them attention.
The reality is the more they pull the silent treatment, the more emotionally sick and an immature you realize they are. In many instances, part of the ‘control’ is in the knowing or thinking that you may not be able to leave because you have children or you may not have a job. This gives them a feeling of authority and power over you.
Wise up and tell them, “Don’t Let The Door Hit You On The Way Out.”