It’s tempting sometimes to feel like you got the short end of the stick …. the raw end of the deal. Probably the reason you feel that way is because (unlike the sychophant who caused such damage and moved on without so much as a pang of remorse), YOU are perpetually stuck in the here-and-now cleaning up and dealing with all the collateral damage the narcissist left behind as he/she flitted off to pursue their new life and indulge their every whim.
Regardless of how it SEEMS at this moment in time, there IS coming a day of reckoning. Rest assured, that he/she has not “gotten away” with anything.
Just like you were left alone with no support and no one to help but yourself, your narcissist will eventually get old, ill, and will someday be forced to play that chilling solitary final hand of cards: Death/Aces Low. The ultimate insult to his/her ego and false self.
If you’re at all like like me, you believe in the Christian perspective of life after death and a Great Hereafter. I believe that there in that time and place, there will be perfect justice meted out. However, by that time, you and I will be past our pain and even we won’t be calling for vengeance any more. However, it will be stockpiled and right there waiting for him/her nonetheless. That will be a sad day indeed.
Sad because, having used their life only to selfishly take all their liberties in advance, and having not invested anything in developing character for the after life, no one will be stepping up to rescue the Narc. Rather, he/she will be forced to look at themselves up-close-and-personal on The Big Screen as it all is replayed for all to see.
Unlike you and I, who faced raw-deal reality and paid the high price to learn lessons here, he/she will have to face theirs there. There is no free ride for any of us, not even for your Dearly Departed Narcissist who may APPEAR to be getting away with their plans and living the high life.
And besides, even if your ex Narc still has a shred of conscience and knows (deep down inside) that he/she will ultimately have to come to the end of the road and face judgment for their deeds and cruelty, they still are living their lives so self-absorbed that rather than humbling themselves and apologizing. they simply continue to kick the can down the road, whistling like a scared child in the graveyard, telling themselves and everyone around them to let them go and then “Wake Me Up On Judgment Day”.
Note the irony here? Despite treating people despicably, the Narcissist still deludes themselves in that they think they’re going to “hear Golden Trumpets play”. NOT!
That is, not unless they make things right, and do all they can to make restitution for the damage they caused others. (But then, I’m not much of one to believe in the veracity of deathbed confessions though.)
Keep walking on.