Okay, so you’re up to date on sudden abandonment. You know (better than anyone) that your life’s going down a road that inevitably will take you where you don’t want to go … so how do you put it all back together? Well, you’ve got to to make an immediate turn and get back on The Road To Happiness. (Easier said than done, you’re probably thinking.)
Before I go any further, I believe in giving credit where credit is due, and the credit for the inspiration for my getting head out of my backside goes to my wonderful son. When all of this happened and I spent months blubbering like an idiot over a man who obviously was locked onto another woman’s frequency, I sat still, transfixed, and in stone-cold silence like a catatonic emotional cripple. (Insert the sound of the idiot-buzzer here. Danger Will Robinson!)
I remember him pulling the headphones off his ears just long enough to tell me that what I needed to do was exactly what he was doing … and that was finding a playlist of “tunes” … putting on the headphones … and moving on with life. He has always been short and to the point, so he summed it all up when he tacitly added, “Why not? … Dad certainly has!” Wise advice from an 18 year old I must say.
However, like a love-struck puppy I whined, “I can’t! Every song reminds me of him.” Well in one respect that was certainly true. But since then, I have realized that God gave us many tools to assist us in this journey. We the option to pull them out and use them as a salve any time we choose. Two tools I had allowed to gather dust during the first few months of my ordeal were my love of music and my wicked sense of humor. I know firsthand that they both can be great at smoothing the gullet when it feels like chugging 200 proof grain alcohol when we have to drink from the Reality Cup.
So if, like me, you’re going through a breakup you think you may not survive, and you’ve wallowed a bit too long, try a little music with a humor chaser. As Julie Andrews in The Sound Of Music would tell you, “just a spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down.”
Thank you son! You gave me my life back.