Whoa, stop right there! Are you entertaining the thought of asking your abandoner to come back and go with you to counseling or to start couples therapy? Do you seriously think that will bring him or her to their senses if they’ve already left you? Well, think again.
In today’s Nike culture (“Just Do It”), you’re more than likely dealing with someone who is character or personality disordered, rather than someone who caught up in a moment and made a mistake. And in those instances, traditional therapy (relatively unchanged since Freud’s “Don’t Even Think About Doing It” ) days will not help.
In this video Dr. Simon explains why. Take a listen. You may find your answer to “How could s/he do that?” Then you can get on your road to healing and not wasting anymore time on him or her.