Rest Assured, He/She Will Flaunt The Latest Catch
Narcissists are so very predictable. As sure as the sun rises each morning, you know that he/she will display their new trophy to you at every possible opportunity. If you have children together, the new woman or man will appear at their school and sporting events and will obviously be completely smitten with your ex.
The Show Must Go On
The new lover is no doubt thinking what a wonderful parent and person your ex is, while you just shake your head because you know the truth. You see, the children are yet another way to make a self-absorbed person look wonderful. By attending their events, they can show the new love interest what a caring person he/she is. But because of your history together, you know better. The parent (or step-parent) of your children will soon have little time or use for them when there is no longer a show to be put on.
If you don’t have children with your narcissistic ex, he/she will have to be more creative in letting you know in no uncertain terms that they have moved past you. Whether it is through mutual friends, social media, or coming right out and telling you, the message is loud and clear. They have found someone better than you. Most importantly, they want you to know that the newest love gives him/her the proper amount of admiration that you refused to give after you started to see them for who they really are.
Wish Him/Her Well
When you get all the way through the transition process,you will be able to (in your heart and verbally to others) wish them well and mean it. Unlike him/her, you didn’t spend all that time in a marriage without feeling love. Based on your history alone, you are still able to have care and concern for them as a person, even though you no longer experience the addiction of romantic love.
Having matured and grown in self-esteem and inner confidence, you can genuinely be happy that there’s someone out there for everyone.
What you also will do (unlike when you were with him/her) is make the conscious choice to decline continuing to be a stage prop in the theatre of their life. You will either decline to attend events where he/she are likely to be altogether, or you will still go ahead and attend but not be the least bit affected by their presence.
Essentially, he/she has become like any other stranger to you. Hate is not the opposite of love. Indifference is. In this case, indifference is a great thing.