From Dr. Diane England:
When you said your vows, what were you expecting?
I suspect if you were like most women, you thought you were entering a partnership. You would enjoy shared power, right? I bet you’ve discovered something quite different, though. I bet he likes to have power over you, isn’t that so? You might feel badly or experience emotional pain much of the time, but still not understand why. You might well believe your narcissistic spouse when he tells you how you are the problem, and if you just changed and did these things he wanted, well, life would be grand.
For him, that is.
Sorry, but a relationship with a narcissist is not about partnership. Those suffering from unhealthy levels of narcissism don’t know what that means. They are self-centered. They lack empathy. And more than anything else, they are grandiose. Whether successful or not, they feel entitled to have what they want when they want it.
Rather like the two-year-old.
The narcissistic throw tantrums when they don’t get what they want, too. The difference is, they scream about more than how they hate you; those suffering from unhealthy levels of narcissism are inclined to scream obscenities and other hurtful things making your self-esteem plunge and the anxiety butterflies swirl, wouldn’t you agree?