In the middle of a battle or break-up, your Borderline could flirt with, bait and bed a whole lot of folks. This leaves you open to contracting all sorts of STD’s–but his/her attitude if You venture out during one of your separations and date another, is tantamount to provoking a ten point earthquake on the Richter Scale!
Ironically, it’s perfectly acceptable for them to do the Mattress Mambo with as many casual partners as they wish–but heaven help you, if you draw outside the lines just one tiny bit; the seismic reaction will be one you’ll never live down.
It makes no difference how many times you point out his/her massive indiscretions during this hiatus by the way–they’ve now got a ‘dealbreaker’ to clobber you with, each time you try to reconcile.
Don’t presume they’re telling the truth about their sexual history or health. You may want to believe it when he/she says they’re “clean,” or just got anaids test–but in reality, they’re used to lying, and embellishing/fabricating facts to get what they want, and you honestly can’t know who you’re dealing with, when you’ve started dating. No matter what your instincts are saying about this person, use protection!!! Not doing so, could easily result in an unintended pregnancy, a death sentence or living with a painful virus like herpes or genital warts, they conveniently “forgot” to tell you about.
Excerpted from SHELL-SHOCKED! Clearing the Fallout from a Borderline Break-up By Shari Schreiber, M.A. www.GettinBetter.com